Part 2: Sermon On The Mount Series: Comfort Me

Pain and sadness happen to us all. Marriage offers us the unique opportunity to support our spouse in their time of sadness. What a powerful moment it is when we can minister to our spouse in the Spirit of Jesus. God’s spirit moving through us can help us share his light and presence with our spouse. 

Jesus said while teaching The Sermon On The Mount in Matthew 5:4 (KJV), “Blessed are those who mourn: for they shall be comforted.” We see here that Jesus knows there are times in our lives when we will experience mourning. We may mourn because we have lost a loved one, a relationship, an opportunity, or a job. We mourn when we are in excruciating pain and when heartbreak paralyzes us. We can rest in assurance that God sees us and knows our needs. 

Jesus promises that we will experience comfort and that our mourning will end. We believe that misery will not last forever. The ultimate relief from mourning is when we enter our heavenly, peaceful, eternal home!  

But what are we to do when grief and mourning occur in our marriage relationships? For some, this can be a real challenge, as what may bring comfort to us may not bring comfort to our spouse. As individuals, we are comforted differently. The following are some things we can do to comfort our spouses in their times of mourning and grief. You will have to ask your spouse what it is that they need. 

1. Acknowledge your spouse’s pain. Your spouse needs to know that you care about the grief they are experiencing. Express that you are aware of their grief and mourn with them; this is having empathy. Give comforting words. They may be comforted when you say, ”I'm sorry that you are mourning, or I’m sorry for your loss.”

1. Ask your spouse how you can comfort them during this time of mourning and grief. Your spouse may need you to hold them tightly, hug and kiss them, hold their hand, be sexually intimate with them, or spend time alone. Whatever they need, be there for them and attend to their needs. 

1. Pray for your spouse. Ask God to comfort them and give them peace during this time of mourning and grief. Share comforting words from the Bible and songs that soothe their spirit. 

1. Help them with the chores and encourage them to rest. Support them as much as possible and let them grieve. They may need the support of a grief group or therapy. Support them in healing.

Where do you rate yourself for providing comfort to your spouse 0-10 (10 = best)? What can you do this week to increase your rating? 

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