Marriage Mission Statement: Part 4: Connecting with your spouse

Thank you for joining us on this journey to construct a Marriage Mission Statement (MMS). If this is the first blog you have read about this subject, please visit our website or Facebook page and begin at Part 1 to help you correctly start your MMS. 

The acronym GUIDE stands for G-God, U-Us/Teamwork, I-Intimacy, D-Dreams, and E-Empathy/Encouragement. We will explore these more in-depth over the next few weeks. 

Today, we will explore the letter I-Intimacy in the word GUIDE. Intimacy describes how we connect. In this section of the MMS, you will describe how you will connect, be close, be vulnerable, be safe, and meet each other's emotional and physical needs. Genesis 2:24-25 (KJV) states, "Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed." The scripture paints a word picture of being very close with your spouse that the writer describes as "one flesh." To become "one flesh," we must leave some things and learn how to cleave to each other. The questions in the next section will help you think of concepts and statements that you want to include in this section. 

The following questions can help you develop 3-5 sentences that help you declare how you will connect. In what ways do you demonstrate that you totally accept your mate? What will you do for each other that will affirm your love for each other? What will we do to ensure we can be open and honest with each other without condemnation? How will we ensure that we allow each other to feel vulnerable? What do you agree to do to have peaceful and honest conversations? What does physical intimacy look like for the two of you?

Remember that you do not have to answer every question; just the ones you feel speak to who the two of you are at this time in your life. 

Example: We will verbalize our love to each other daily by telling each other we love each other and compliment each other. We will overlook minor errors and faults that we each have. We firmly agree that we can have our own opinions and our views are valued. We wholeheartedly allow each other to disagree with our opinions in love. We will hold and embrace each other daily. We commit to satisfying each other's sexual needs mutually. 

The above is only an example. Please write things as you would want them to be. Sometimes, it is helpful to have each spouse write their own section and then blend your statements together. 

Next week, we will explore the letter D in the acronym GUIDE. 

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